CONTINUED CONTACT MIGHT HELP DRUG-USING TEEN

DEAR ANNIE: This summer, I tutored "Chris," a high school sophomore who
lives down the block. He hangs around with a rough crowd, and they use
drugs. Chris admitted he smokes pot every day and occasionally takes
Ecstasy. I talked to Chris about the drugs and was making some headway, but
now I don't see him anymore. Is there anything I can do?

The Tutor In Miami

Dear Tutor in Miami: You cannot stop Chris from taking drugs if that's what
he wants to do. However, you were a stabilizing influence on him, and I
hope you keep in touch. He needs to know that someone he respects cares
what happens in his life. DEAR ANNIE: I have a close group of friends, and
we all have young children. Unfortunately, one of the boys, age 3, has
started to hit the others. His mother corrects him, but he hasn't changed.
Is there anything we can do? Mom in Indiana

Dear Mom: The boy needs extra assurance that he is loved and special. Try
to engage him in conversation. Tell him how proud his mother is and how
grown-up he is.

His mother must make it clear that hitting others will not be tolerated,
and if necessary, she must remove him from the room until he settles down.
His behavior will improve over time, but it will take patience from all of
you. Meanwhile, stay close to your babies when this boy is around, and make
sure they are protected.