DEAR ABBY:

My husband and I believe our 9-year-old son, "Andy," will soon ask us
if we ever tried marijuana. I tried it in college and I think I should
admit it. Grass made me laugh, but it also made me lazy -- and I was
unable to concentrate. My husband, on the other hand, doesn't want to
admit to Andy we smoked grass in college. He's afraid if our son finds
out, he will be more inclined to try it.

How do you think we should handle this?

WEEDING OUT THE TRUTH

DEAR WEEDING OUT:

Honesty is the best policy. Tell your son the truth, including how it
made you lazy and unable to concentrate. As George Bernard Shaw once
said, "If you must hold yourself up to your children as an object
lesson, hold yourself up as a WARNING and not as an example."