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Title: | US AZ: Grieving Dad Speaks Out |
Published On: | 2004-05-15 |
Source: | East Valley Tribune (AZ) |
Fetched On: | 2008-01-18 10:02:42 |
GRIEVING DAD SPEAKS OUT
Jillian Cleary had a tightknit family, tons of friends, an active church
life and a gift for writing. All of those positives didn't stop her from
trying methamphetamine, though, and they didn't stop her from dying. She
was 15. On Thursday, the teen police believe gave Cleary and two of her
friends the meth was arrested.
The 15-year-old, who is not being named by the Tribune because of his age,
was arrested by Gilbert police on suspicion of sale of dangerous drugs and
using minors in drug offenses, both felonies.
On Friday, Cleary's father, Walter Cleary, 46, of Phoenix spoke about his
daughter, the arrest and teenage drug experimentation.
"Jill was a good daughter. We've been blessed in that we've never had
children that we were really concerned about, but Jill was the one we were
the least concerned about," Cleary said. "That night was the first time
Jill had tried anything like that and she had ill effects."
On Feb. 27, Jillian, who lived with her mother in Chandler and attended
Gilbert High School, went to a friend's house in Gilbert for a slumber
party. Her mother believed there would be adult supervision, but there was not.
"The girls plotted to experiment with these drugs," Walter Cleary said.
"They wanted to try them because they hadn't. I don't care how good your
kid is, they are going to experiment. Eighty (percent) to 90 percent of
kids are going to experiment with something, even if it's just a sip of beer."
Jillian Cleary got sick after taking the drug and vomited through the
night, Walter Cleary said. She got a ride home from one of the girls'
mothers the next morning.
When Jillian Cleary's mother, a nurse, got home from work at midnight,
Jillian Cleary's lips were blue and she was taken to the hospital.
She died Feb. 29, leaving behind her parents and five siblings.
Jillian Cleary died because she inhaled her vomit, suffered a lack of
oxygen and developed pneumonia, Walter Cleary said.
Apparently, the fear of getting in trouble prevented the kids from seeking
assistance, Walter Cleary said.
"Not only did her friends not get her help, but she didn't get herself
help," Walter Cleary said. "I don't think we're ever going to stop all
(drug usage), but we need to educate kids that if they're having problems,
they need to get help. If some of Jill's friends had gotten care for her,
she would've lived."
The person who gave the girls the drugs is not the only one responsible for
his daughter's death, he said.
"I hope the police go up the ladder and get the source of the drugs,
because I honestly believe these were just kids being stupid."
According to court records, the boy is scheduled to appear in court
Wednesday on unrelated charges. He is accused of threatening and
intimidating a person at a Gilbert apartment complex on March 19.
About 350 people came to Jillian Cleary's funeral, many teenagers she had
met at the two high schools she'd attended -- Paradise Valley College
charter school in Phoenix and Gilbert High School, Walter Cleary said.
Others were fellow members of the youth group at New Life Christian Church
in Gilbert.
For the past year she had been developing her talent as a writer and
photographer, Walter Cleary said.
"My faith (is getting me through this.) If I didn't think I would be
reunited with my daughter again, this would be a lot harder to take,"
Walter Cleary said. "This life is short for all of us and it was way short
for Jill."
Jillian Cleary had a tightknit family, tons of friends, an active church
life and a gift for writing. All of those positives didn't stop her from
trying methamphetamine, though, and they didn't stop her from dying. She
was 15. On Thursday, the teen police believe gave Cleary and two of her
friends the meth was arrested.
The 15-year-old, who is not being named by the Tribune because of his age,
was arrested by Gilbert police on suspicion of sale of dangerous drugs and
using minors in drug offenses, both felonies.
On Friday, Cleary's father, Walter Cleary, 46, of Phoenix spoke about his
daughter, the arrest and teenage drug experimentation.
"Jill was a good daughter. We've been blessed in that we've never had
children that we were really concerned about, but Jill was the one we were
the least concerned about," Cleary said. "That night was the first time
Jill had tried anything like that and she had ill effects."
On Feb. 27, Jillian, who lived with her mother in Chandler and attended
Gilbert High School, went to a friend's house in Gilbert for a slumber
party. Her mother believed there would be adult supervision, but there was not.
"The girls plotted to experiment with these drugs," Walter Cleary said.
"They wanted to try them because they hadn't. I don't care how good your
kid is, they are going to experiment. Eighty (percent) to 90 percent of
kids are going to experiment with something, even if it's just a sip of beer."
Jillian Cleary got sick after taking the drug and vomited through the
night, Walter Cleary said. She got a ride home from one of the girls'
mothers the next morning.
When Jillian Cleary's mother, a nurse, got home from work at midnight,
Jillian Cleary's lips were blue and she was taken to the hospital.
She died Feb. 29, leaving behind her parents and five siblings.
Jillian Cleary died because she inhaled her vomit, suffered a lack of
oxygen and developed pneumonia, Walter Cleary said.
Apparently, the fear of getting in trouble prevented the kids from seeking
assistance, Walter Cleary said.
"Not only did her friends not get her help, but she didn't get herself
help," Walter Cleary said. "I don't think we're ever going to stop all
(drug usage), but we need to educate kids that if they're having problems,
they need to get help. If some of Jill's friends had gotten care for her,
she would've lived."
The person who gave the girls the drugs is not the only one responsible for
his daughter's death, he said.
"I hope the police go up the ladder and get the source of the drugs,
because I honestly believe these were just kids being stupid."
According to court records, the boy is scheduled to appear in court
Wednesday on unrelated charges. He is accused of threatening and
intimidating a person at a Gilbert apartment complex on March 19.
About 350 people came to Jillian Cleary's funeral, many teenagers she had
met at the two high schools she'd attended -- Paradise Valley College
charter school in Phoenix and Gilbert High School, Walter Cleary said.
Others were fellow members of the youth group at New Life Christian Church
in Gilbert.
For the past year she had been developing her talent as a writer and
photographer, Walter Cleary said.
"My faith (is getting me through this.) If I didn't think I would be
reunited with my daughter again, this would be a lot harder to take,"
Walter Cleary said. "This life is short for all of us and it was way short
for Jill."
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