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News (Media Awareness Project) - CN BC: How To Help Kids Kick Crystal Meth - One Parent's Advice
Title:CN BC: How To Help Kids Kick Crystal Meth - One Parent's Advice
Published On:2006-11-16
Source:Outlook, The (CN BC)
Fetched On:2008-01-12 21:59:44
HOW TO HELP KIDS KICK CRYSTAL METH - ONE PARENT'S ADVICE

Barbara Hansen is the mother of Nicole Hansen, a 19-year-old former
drug user. Barbara, along with her husband, Barry, has worked hard to
help Nicole get through this difficult and troubling time. It hasn't
been easy. To help other parents, Barbara recently compiled the
following advice aimed at parents and caregivers of teenage drug
users and teens in recovery.

9 TIPS FROM ONE PARENT TO ANOTHER: Frantic parents frequently ask me
what they should look for (or, in some cases, what they could have
looked for). There are no easy ways to "save" your children from the
dangers of drugs. And it's not always easy to detect drug use - the
signs of drug use are often more difficult to detect than alcohol
use. I encourage all parents to educate themselves about drugs. In
addition, I've put together a list of nine things you can do to.

1. LOVE THEM: This may sound simplistic, but it is essential - and
more helpful to your kids than you realize. Through loving them (and
I really mean LOVING them), you will need to exercise more patience
than you've ever known in your life. The most damaging experiences
for any family member is in believing they are not loved. Each person
has his or her own trials to bear and perhaps they will not ever be
able to entirely overcome them, but they must know they are loved
unconditionally and that you are there for them.

2. LISTEN TO THEM: Sit quietly with your child and let him or her
talk. Keep your eyes and ears open. Ask daily how your child is
doing; ask if he or she has been using drugs (or if they've quit
using ask if they've had any "slip ups" and if you need to help them
get professional help). My husband and I tried not to raise our
voices and would suffer quietly in our own hearts knowing what our
daughter was going through during the six months she was abusing
drugs. I suggest to parents to open your hearts AND your ears without
being judgmental. It's the one aspect of the relationship between a
parent and a child that cannot fail.

3. UNDERSTAND THEM: Know how your kid ticks. Realize that your
child's strength's can sometimes be their weaknesses. Nicole's strong
points were definitely a double-edge sword. Her independence,
loyalty, adventurousness, and trust and love for others also made her
latch onto the drug scene and fall fast for the (false) friendships.
It is the family's responsibility and duty to help guide children to
use their strengths toward the right direction in their lives.

4. KEEP COOL - AND REMIND THEM: If you find out that your child is
using drugs or is around users, do not lose your temper (even though
you may want to). They need your patience now and mostly your love.
Understand they are going through difficult times. Your child, like
every child, desperately wants to feel included by his or her peers.
And they often think the drug scene offers acceptance, fun,
adventure, and true friendships. Which, of course, is a lie. Continue
to let your child know that using drugs is wrong and damaging to them.

5. SET RULES: This includes setting and enforcing curfews. Be sure to
insist that your child calls you at certain times to check in. Know
your child's friends and whom they'll be with and where they are
going. I also suggest limiting or eliminating sleep-overs past age
12. From our experience this was how many young drug users began experimenting.

6. KNOW WHAT THEY'RE UP TO: Make sure you are not so busy that you're
unaware of what your child is doing. Set up a network with your
neighbours and the parents of your child's friends. Check in with
each other on what they are "supposed" to be doing at each other's
homes. If no one is at your house during the day, I suggest leaving
your work number with a neighbor who can keep an eye on the
neighbourhood. Many kids leave school to do drugs in parents' homes
that are at work. If a neighbor sees kids around your home, you may
want them to contact you at work so you can further investigate.

7. BE WARY OF CLUBS AND PARTIES: A lot of people use drugs at clubs
and parties, however, not all kids who go to clubs and parties are
users. But it is likely. If you notice that your child is receiving
unmarked mail -- be suspicious. Many organizers send out flyers. If
you see flyers promoting dances and concerts and advertising "No
drugs," "No drinking," and "PLUR" (peace, love, unity, respect) -
realize that these mailings are from party promoters who are very
aware of parents' skepticism and are often blatantly lying.

8. GET SMART: Do all you can to learn everything about the drug scene
so that you can educate your kid correctly on the dangers of drugs.
They will respect you for caring that much that you took the time to
find out about today's drugs and how harmful they are. Sometimes you
will just need to ride out the problem and continue to try to be
there for your child. But remain firm and remind them of the
harmfulness of doing drugs. If measures need to be more drastic,
contact a counselling centre and drug rehab to find out your options.

9. GET HELP: If necessary, get help for your child - but get help for
yourself, too. You may need it for your own strength. Go to your
family, church or support network. And, if need be, get professional
help for the rest of your family. Don't allow embarrassment or
scrutiny from neighbours to stop you from doing everything necessary
to get your family back on a healthy course.
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