Break-Ups
| Good [+1]Toggle ReplyLink» Czarkastik replied on Mon Nov 24, 2003 @ 4:28am |
 Coolness: 149745 | everything has a purpose in life.
if you keep the faith and keep living day by day, you'll always be on the right path. trust in yourself, and in the end time will tell where you should be, and who you should be with, if anyone... try to be thankful that you've learned and been through something that can cause such strong emotions, that's what being human and living life is all about. one love |
| Good [+1]Toggle ReplyLink» lakester replied on Mon Nov 24, 2003 @ 4:42am |
 Coolness: 60395 | man, when i asked this question, people just told me to do lots of drugs.
sarah, there's a lot of golden advice in here. i found it out the hard way. |
| Good [+1]Toggle ReplyLink» errorizE replied on Mon Nov 24, 2003 @ 5:05am |
 Coolness: 61555 | aww man thats sad news :(
all of the advice mentioned above is great. You have lots of friends with lots of support. If you really did love this person then You'll never forget him. All you can do is remember the good times and move on. Accept the fact that it is over without wondering why. |
| Good [+1]Toggle ReplyLink» wisp replied on Mon Nov 24, 2003 @ 7:41am |
| Coolness: 98035 | i am so the wrong person to ask this right now.
like, whoa. |
| Good [+1]Toggle ReplyLink» Mali replied on Mon Nov 24, 2003 @ 7:46am |
 Coolness: 202830 | Go out with some friends to try and forget about it for a little while
Like the pain of the break up will eventually go away over time, you will probably always will love him but you will be able to accept that you guys are not together anymore over time. Focus on your work.. school your hobbies a little more, so you can at least forget about the whole thing for a few moments, sure the pain will all come back but having your head cleared without no pain for a few minutes is better then your head filled always with the pain. |
| Good [+1]Toggle ReplyLink» wisp replied on Mon Nov 24, 2003 @ 7:55am |
| Coolness: 98035 | yeah well i find people always need to replace something with something.
i always jump from relationship to relationship, but sometimes that isnt the answer and actually can be more harmful than anything. crying over it and not eating and sleeping is the natural way to get over it. unlike taking drugs/alcohol and surpressing the feelings is only adding guilt and such. making you feel twice as bad as you did the night before, though it seems to help for the time. it sucks, but theres really no other way. it's just time. and besides time, is well, falling in love again, but sometimes the last thing you wanna think about is being with anybody else. so do it naturally. and distract yourself as much as possible. also try not to neglect the important things. like school, work, etc. even though that even becomes 100x harder to go to and perform in... time sarah and distraction are the best suggestions i can offer... cheer up, i know what's it's like all too well. |
| Good [+1]Toggle ReplyLink» Agent_Yogurt replied on Mon Nov 24, 2003 @ 8:16am |
| Coolness: 134325 | you need that time of shear tears. let it all out. cry all day if you need to. eventually you cant cry anymore then you'll mope around for a while. you wont feel like eating or sleeping or even talking. let it happen. its natural. if you think its for the best then try to keep yourself busy. if you think its not then maybe try to work things out. thats all i got... |
| Good [+1]Toggle ReplyLink» little_sarah replied on Mon Nov 24, 2003 @ 8:24am |
 Coolness: 122155 | Originally posted by SOYFUNK...
keep busy doing diverse things; or at least try remember to eat well i can't.. i'm literally sick to my stomach- the only thing i'm eatingis light jello twice a day- i've lost 13 lbs so far.. |
| Good [+1]Toggle ReplyLink» little_sarah replied on Mon Nov 24, 2003 @ 8:27am |
| Coolness: 122155 | Originally posted by SOYFUNK...
you sorta find out who your real friends are as well... the best form of physical outpour is the creative one.. like matt said: write, draw, read, sing, dance dont be afraid to express yourself even if it means repeating yourself it's much better than keeping all inside i trust you'll feel strong again very soon sarah! i never saw this coming- i spent all my time with him, i feel like i almost don't have any friends anymore.. and i know it's my fault- i feel like i've just ruined everything... i'm trying to surround myself with friends but i almost feel bad just going to them because of this.. |
| Good [+1]Toggle ReplyLink» cloud9ine replied on Mon Nov 24, 2003 @ 8:32am |
 Coolness: 139435 | yr real friends wont abandon you and they will wholheartidly understand.
look at all the people who have replied to this thread with advice and support, you have real friends who care. just keep yrself busy. time heals all wounds. |
| Good [+1]Toggle ReplyLink» G__ replied on Mon Nov 24, 2003 @ 8:33am |
| Coolness: 142080 | no matter how long time seems to take |
| Good [+1]Toggle ReplyLink» little_sarah replied on Mon Nov 24, 2003 @ 8:34am |
| Coolness: 122155 | i slept through most of the night last nite- my crying attack only happened around 6 and i haven't really slept since then. all my dreams are about him (which is really strange considering i never even used to when we were together- they're all bad/ creepy ones too)
i want to work things out so much.. he's not interested, he "doesnt' want a girlfriend right now- it takes up too much of his time, and he has to focus on his art and being young". the worst part is- it's not like it's even real to me- i can't play it back in my head- because it was all over the fone- after having been together for 1 year and breaking up with me on our 1 year anniversary and he can't even say it to my face.. i miss him so much.. and i have been crying every day- almost all day (even now- first thing in the morning- again).. i just don't wanna be miserable.. i want to keep myself busy but i feel so weak (inside and out).. it's too hard for me.. |
| Good [+1]Toggle ReplyLink» cloud9ine replied on Mon Nov 24, 2003 @ 8:38am |
| Coolness: 139435 | its not too hard, hun. we've all (or, almost) been there before.
when it feels like you can't handle it anymore, you need to tell yourself we live on a planet with 6 billion people. as much as you think he was the one for you, theres many others out there who will treat you just as well, if not better. he dosent deserve a sweet gal like you ;) |
| Good [+1]Toggle ReplyLink» little_sarah replied on Mon Nov 24, 2003 @ 8:46am |
| Coolness: 122155 | tha't probably one of the best pieces of advice i've heard so far.. thanks :) |
| Good [+1]Toggle ReplyLink» soyfunk replied on Mon Nov 24, 2003 @ 9:40am |
 Coolness: 127485 | hey sarah
i'm just a bum these days until i decide to vanish into the endless planes mongolia or become a peace worker in chad so holla at me if you need to do something and want some company [does the brukshot] |
| Good [+1]Toggle ReplyLink» soyfunk replied on Mon Nov 24, 2003 @ 9:44am |
| Coolness: 127485 | oh yeah
do you have etching tools? we can etch away the teh bad times into a plate of plexiglass good times! |
| Good [+1]Toggle ReplyLink» mdc replied on Mon Nov 24, 2003 @ 10:23am |
| Coolness: 149530 | Take it from a guy who got dumped a week after his 1 year anniversary by a girl, who just a week prior said she would run away with me (for reason i wont elaborate on)
The best thing to realize is that Time really does heal all wounds... Sure, it feels like the end of the world now, but when you think back on it in the future, you'll be able to think fondly of the good times and realize a valuable lesson: that no one person is worth so much pain. Believe me, I completely ditched ALL my friends when I started going out with my ex (her brother included, who was my bestest best friend at the time), and when we broke up I felt HORRIBLE turning to them just because I was in pain yet for the past year I had barely even spoken to them... Let me tell you, I learned a lot about my friends, and learned which ones were really my friends... Just don't do anything drastic, and try to forget about the pain for a second before making any important decisions... Emotions can be blinding Good luck. I wish you all the best, and I know you'll be fine... Like Ian said.. with a beautiful carebear face like that you can find someone a MILLION times better (also, yes, you do still love him, you may always still love him, but you know that saying "It is better to have loved and lost than never to have loved at all" you may not believe it now.. but it is true... I doubt youll ever stop loving someone, love is timeless... but youll realize it just wasnt for you... dont worry and dont despair) |
| Good [+1]Toggle ReplyLink» Agent_Yogurt replied on Mon Nov 24, 2003 @ 10:25am |
| Coolness: 134325 | if he cant say that to your face then he isnt worth it. really. maybe he is just scared and the one year anniversarry made him act irrationally. iono. ppl are weird. |
| Good [+1]Toggle ReplyLink» Phoenix replied on Mon Nov 24, 2003 @ 10:44am |
 Coolness: 82405 | Originally posted by LITTLE SARAH...
it's not like it's even real to me- i can't play it back in my head- because it was all over the fone- after having been together for 1 year and breaking up with me on our 1 year anniversary and he can't even say it to my face.. You have my sincerest sympathies... We all know what it's like to lose someone close that we love however I believe this guy is a true coward because of the way he ended your relationship. I believe that after you've been on 4 or more dates with a person it is customary (and more respectable) to end the relationship in person (whether it's serious or not)... it's just common courtesy. My best advise to you is not to play into his hand of psychological mind games...and if you do come in contact to pretend that it hasnt affected you. As long as he feels that you're dependant on him for moral support than he has the upper hand. Unfortunately feelings arent always mutual and other factors come into play which can affect a relationship,... fear is usually the big one. Alot of people fear commitment and perhaps once he realized that you had been together for so long he was afraid of progressing to the next level... Letting a relationship drag on too long with no progression makes the relationship get less and less exciting and perhaps he wanted to end it when you two were at a high note... Whatever his reasons are, the phone was still definitely the wrong way to do it. Hopefully you'll soon realize that he's the one losing out on someone who obviously appreciates and cares very much for him. Rest assured you can do much better. |
| Good [+1]Toggle ReplyLink» little_sarah replied on Mon Nov 24, 2003 @ 1:19pm |
| Coolness: 122155 | i just don't know how i was supposed to know otherwise.. i never saw it coming..
the little tigns are stil driving me mad. like the oap he used at my house- everytime i smell it it reminds me so much of him, and all the little stff.. what do i do with his pictures? the paintings on my wall? he stuffed animal he made me? dino: what happened to you sounds exactly like my case... |
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