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False Sense Of Entitlement?
| Good [+1]Toggle ReplyLink» ufot replied on Mon Jan 26, 2009 @ 4:57pm |
 Coolness: 93815 | This is a disturbing new epidemic that is affecting children across the nation. Parents often find themselves over compensating for issues they feel guilty about, like working full time, or even divorce. And although they intend to pacify their children with cell phones, video games and over priced shoes, is this what is best for the children? In reality, we are actually hurting our children and society as a whole. We are not allowing our children to develop character. Instead we are raising kids who can not cope and have unrealistic expectations about life. We are sending the message that they deserve things for simply facing adversity...
I was indulging in an episode of Judge Judy when I heard an incredible example of a problem that I believe is ruining our homes, workplaces, and our very culture. A mother, at the end of her rope, was suing her 24-year-old son for repayment of over $4000 she had loaned him (worse, from her credit card) to buy a car. She'd forgiven the first two car loans she had made him from her life savings, but now the credit card bills were pouring in. His impressive defense: "She owed this to me because the last car she bought me was a piece of shit!" This lovely gentleman's attitude? Entitlement. We expect young children to want what they want when they want it. But it doesn't stop there. Too, often parents, parents are guilted into trying to meet every perceived need Teenagers are notorious for expecting the best of everything, despite parents' financial realities. Too often, parents are guilted into trying to meet every perceived need or into rescuing their troubled children instead of teaching responsibility. Many adults whimper at the slightest inconvenience, delay, or restriction. Why? Because, like toddlers, they are convinced they deserve what they want when they want it. Many of our workplaces are also poisoned with attitudes of entitlement. In my work with organizations across the country, I hear words that are telltale symptoms. "What have they done for me lately?" "This company owes me more than this as an annual raise. After all, I put in my eight hours a day." (Never mind performance.) "They're not being fair." (Would you like a little cheese with that whine?) Let's be honest with ourselves; it may not just be "they". I'd like to inject realistic, healing ideas to inoculate us all from that poisonous "you owe me" disease. Life's not fair; get used to it!The only fair "thing" in life is a carnival. Things don't always happen the way you planned. People don't always treat you the way you think you should be treated. Someone else may have more than you, though you believe you tried harder. Don't go to pity parties or get bitter every time you don't get what you think you deserve. That's a recipe for misery. Stay out of the endless pursuit of "justice". Don't destroy yourself by an obsession with evening the score. Instead, determine to keep playing fairly with others and doing the right thing, no matter what others choose to do. Get out of the victim role! "Chronic victims" are a pain to others and themselves. I'm not talking about people who have been legitimately victimized, yet they work hard to deal with it and move on. Chronic victims are chronic blamers and complainers. When you hear yourself bemoaning your life, habitually blaming others for your troubles, it's time to do a "response-ability" check. In what ways do YOU have the ability to improve the situation by responding differently? The world doesn't owe you; you owe the world! The world owes me" is a false premise. We have so many life-giving, life-enhancing resources and opportunities at our disposal. These are gifts. They deserve our gratitude, not our indifference. What better way to show our gratitude than to give back? I believe that we are each called and personally equipped to make a difference in this world. Rather than complaining, let's try to live the words of Mohandas Gandhi: "We must be the change we wish to see in the world." Ufot-long day at the office.. why yes it has been |
| I'm feeling haxin an milkin all right now.. | |
| Good [+1]Toggle ReplyLink» v.2-1 replied on Mon Jan 26, 2009 @ 5:04pm |
 Coolness: 159835 | Remove all line breaks and you have one gigantic wall of text. :) |
| I'm feeling like marcus phenix right now.. | |
| Good [+1]Toggle ReplyLink» system_glitch replied on Mon Jan 26, 2009 @ 5:08pm |
 Coolness: 163215 | But .... he's got a point.
Now, back to the Wall of Text! |
| I'm feeling in venomous bloom right now.. | |
| Good [+1]Toggle ReplyLink» ufot replied on Mon Jan 26, 2009 @ 5:21pm |
| Coolness: 93815 | Originally Posted By V.2.0.MINUS.1
Remove all line breaks and you have one gigantic wall of text. :) im practicing my skillz buildings walls in the hopes of being able to keep back the mongolian armies... and by mongolian, I'm referring to retarded people, not armies from the region of mongolia... and by retarded people, I'm referring to stupid people on da webz, not people with downs syndrome... Ufot+beer=win (well, most of the time anyways) |
| I'm feeling haxin an milkin all right now.. | |
| Good [+1]Toggle ReplyLink» databoy replied on Mon Jan 26, 2009 @ 5:27pm |
 Coolness: 106830 | Originally Posted By UFOT
This is a disturbing new epidemic that is affecting children across the nation. Parents often find themselves over compensating for issues they feel guilty about, like working full time, or even divorce. And although they intend to pacify their children with cell phones, video games and over priced shoes, is this what is best for the children? In reality, we are actually hurting our children and society as a whole. We are not allowing our children to develop character. Instead we are raising kids who can not cope and have unrealistic expectations about life. We are sending the message that they deserve things for simply facing adversity... I was indulging in an episode of Judge Judy when I heard an incredible example of a problem that I believe is ruining our homes, workplaces, and our very culture. A mother, at the end of her rope, was suing her 24-year-old son for repayment of over $4000 she had loaned him (worse, from her credit card) to buy a car. She'd forgiven the first two car loans she had made him from her life savings, but now the credit card bills were pouring in. His impressive defense: "She owed this to me because the last car she bought me was a piece of shit!" This lovely gentleman's attitude? Entitlement. We expect young children to want what they want when they want it. But it doesn't stop there. Too, often parents, parents are guilted into trying to meet every perceived need Teenagers are notorious for expecting the best of everything, despite parents' financial realities. Too often, parents are guilted into trying to meet every perceived need or into rescuing their troubled children instead of teaching responsibility. Many adults whimper at the slightest inconvenience, delay, or restriction. Why? Because, like toddlers, they are convinced they deserve what they want when they want it. Many of our workplaces are also poisoned with attitudes of entitlement. In my work with organizations across the country, I hear words that are telltale symptoms. "What have they done for me lately?" "This company owes me more than this as an annual raise. After all, I put in my eight hours a day." (Never mind performance.) "They're not being fair." (Would you like a little cheese with that whine?) Let's be honest with ourselves; it may not just be "they". I'd like to inject realistic, healing ideas to inoculate us all from that poisonous "you owe me" disease. Life's not fair; get used to it!The only fair "thing" in life is a carnival. Things don't always happen the way you planned. People don't always treat you the way you think you should be treated. Someone else may have more than you, though you believe you tried harder. Don't go to pity parties or get bitter every time you don't get what you think you deserve. That's a recipe for misery. Stay out of the endless pursuit of "justice". Don't destroy yourself by an obsession with evening the score. Instead, determine to keep playing fairly with others and doing the right thing, no matter what others choose to do. Get out of the victim role! "Chronic victims" are a pain to others and themselves. I'm not talking about people who have been legitimately victimized, yet they work hard to deal with it and move on. Chronic victims are chronic blamers and complainers. When you hear yourself bemoaning your life, habitually blaming others for your troubles, it's time to do a "response-ability" check. In what ways do YOU have the ability to improve the situation by responding differently? The world doesn't owe you; you owe the world! The world owes me" is a false premise. We have so many life-giving, life-enhancing resources and opportunities at our disposal. These are gifts. They deserve our gratitude, not our indifference. What better way to show our gratitude than to give back? I believe that we are each called and personally equipped to make a difference in this world. Rather than complaining, let's try to live the words of Mohandas Gandhi: "We must be the change we wish to see in the world." Ufot-long day at the office.. why yes it has been Word(s) |
| I'm feeling love right now.. | |
| Good [+1]Toggle ReplyLink» system_glitch replied on Mon Jan 26, 2009 @ 7:10pm |
| Coolness: 163215 | Words => Over 9000!!!!! |
| I'm feeling in venomous bloom right now.. | |
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