Polyamoury
| Good [+1]Toggle ReplyLink» raisinlove replied on Fri Jan 28, 2011 @ 5:08pm |
 Coolness: 63205 | Originally Posted By YOSHIN
not necessarly lol, i don't find a correlation between the two. i think that what you DO with your life make it interesting... but it's true that i also am a dreamer, just on different spheres of life. I like how you implied that's the only thing that could make my life interesting lol |
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| Good [+1]Toggle ReplyLink» AYkiN0XiA replied on Fri Jan 28, 2011 @ 5:20pm |
 Coolness: 166830 | no, no. i just think that it may or may not make it more interesting...
just depending on how you do dream. like some people wait for prince charming and do nothing. and some others wait for him while fucking everything else. and some are in the middle, somewhere balanced... and some other just don't dream about prince charming, they just hate everything. and some other don't dream and just love everyone. who has the most interesting life? what makes it more interesting? where is the corelation? this is just judgement of values. nothing makes it more interesting. it's always only your own perception, and that's pretty personnal. and also i said that i understand dreamers. i'm not like that on this sphere of my life, but i do dream too. there is a nice schism between dreaming and acting - i am enjoying it :) |
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| Good [+1]Toggle ReplyLink» DynV replied on Fri Jan 28, 2011 @ 5:32pm |
 Coolness: 109060 | safe, sane and consensual
it's all good! |
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| Good [+1]Toggle ReplyLink» Screwhead replied on Fri Jan 28, 2011 @ 5:41pm |
 Coolness: 685845 | Originally Posted By DYNV
safe, sane and consensual Well, that rules out women!  |
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| Good [+1]Toggle ReplyLink» AYkiN0XiA replied on Fri Jan 28, 2011 @ 5:42pm |
| Coolness: 166830 | insanity in in the beholder's eyes :)
(euh c'tu comme ca que ca se dit?) |
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| Good [+1]Toggle ReplyLink» raisinlove replied on Fri Jan 28, 2011 @ 6:03pm |
| Coolness: 63205 | Originally Posted By YOSHIN
insanity in in the beholder's eyes :) (euh c'tu comme ca que ca se dit?) or the pharmacist's ;P |
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| Good [+1]Toggle ReplyLink» Nathan replied on Fri Jan 28, 2011 @ 7:20pm |
 Coolness: 166800 | some couples have an open relationship 'cause one or both of the partners is bi, and if both parties are happy with the situation, it can work quite well. but, i've seen those couples break-up anyway, but for other reasons.
sex is an important part of any relationship, but freedom doesn't fix any of the millions of other problems a couple can have. funny how it's called poly'amour'y , as if there's any love involved in any of the sexual encounters either of the couple might have with others. in fact, most of the time the fear is not that your lover is fucking someone else, it's that they might fall in love with someone else. anyway, works for some people, apparently - good for them, but wouldn't work for me. i say, if you want to sleep around, then you might not be ready for a relationship ... |
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| Good [+1]Toggle ReplyLink» MolocH replied on Fri Jan 28, 2011 @ 7:39pm |
 Coolness: 226530 | Originally Posted By ZOMBIENATHAN
funny how it's called poly'amour'y. Polyamory sound a hell of alot more media friendly than "cluster fuckers." |
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| Good [+1]Toggle ReplyLink» databoy replied on Fri Jan 28, 2011 @ 7:39pm |
 Coolness: 106370 | Most of the peoples I know live in monogamous relationships and shit happens anyways. Peoples have sex whether they are in love or not, and break up for all sorts of reasons.
Sex and fantasy has very little to do with love. Ill bet most of the peoples, when they masturbate, are not thinking of love. Update » databoy wrote on Fri Jan 28, 2011 @ 8:15pm Love has that tendency to bring out the liar in all of us. |
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| Good [+1]Toggle ReplyLink» Sparklz replied on Fri Jan 28, 2011 @ 10:21pm |
 Coolness: 113650 | Originally Posted By MOLOCH
Polyamory sound a hell of alot more media friendly than "cluster fuckers." <3 |
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| Good [+1]Toggle ReplyLink» cutterhead replied on Sat Jan 29, 2011 @ 3:40am |
 Coolness: 131850 | im shure one is always more polygloutonous than the other , witch will shurly cause more damage than anygood to one of the fuckers, who should be defined as a fuckered at that point, witch again , breaks the couple sending that fuckered into an eternaloop of sought satisfaction.
unless contempted that way ... it takes everything for a little of something |
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| Good [+1]Toggle ReplyLink» prrr replied on Sat Jan 29, 2011 @ 12:35pm |
 Coolness: 43900 | Originally Posted By RAISINLOVE
Also, it seems to be vastly more popular to cheat on someone than to agree on an open relationship. At least with the open relationship, both agree to it and are equals. Cheaters are cowards who want the extra options but can't deal with their mate having the same privileges. That's a really good argument for non-monogamy. It's normal and perfectly healthy for one or both partners to desire either physical or emotional connection with others outside the primary relationship. I don't think that claiming to be in a monogamoous relationship stops that, it just creates guilty feelings or dishonesty or missed opportunities to form a nice connection with someone else. But it's important to be open and have good communication with your partner about where the boundaries are if you have them, and to practice safe sex or safe sex with anyone else outside the relationship. It still requires trust like any other relationship, it's just a bit more freedom which could be really nice to share with your partner. I once told a bf at the start of our relationship that he could be with other girls too if he liked, that I'm not jealous and it's all good. Either he didn't believe me, or the most likely case - he just wanted to have sex with someone else but didn't want ME to have that freedom too. So he chose "monogamy" but kept me basically as a prisoner/owned object reserved only for him while he was out there benefitting from more freedom himself. I know that this is the case with a lot more relationships than it appears. So now I'm really skeptical of monogamy. Being in a non-monogamous relationship doesn't mean that you're out there fucking the whole world. It can just mean that you have more feedom to make other special connections in whatever capacity, and the ability to communicate openly your partner about it and without destroying the primary relationship. |
| Good [+1]Toggle ReplyLink» Holly_Golightly replied on Sat Jan 29, 2011 @ 3:32pm |
 Coolness: 158990 | i feel it is such a personal choice..
maybe in one's relation that could work.. who knows... but growing up in our culture is very confusing.. on one hand we are socialized in a culture where the family unit is very promoted (and here.. in USA.. an inequal culture of same sex marriage..) but yet in a culture of extreme consumption... i'm very sad when i see some of my friends (people that i care for) objectifying sexuality through destructive behaviors.. sleeping with total strangers and not really feeling satisfy the next day.. bearing the same empty disgusting feeling.. but i do think that having desire is the prime fuel of a human. desire for food, desire for air... desire for sex.. 4 sure one can be in an exclusive long-term relationship and have some desire for friends or significant person but that remain in fantasy land and in fantasy land everything can happen.. but in this dimension, in this reality; nothing have to happen with the object of the desire... i am married and for myself i really believe in loyalty through sex exclusivity. i think that sex is such a great thing i am really happy that me and my husband made the choice to give that only to each other.. im sure some of you think it's corny but whatever it feel really good they should try it maybe.. BUT you must choose the absolute perfect match if you want that to happen and not feel bad into that type of big decision.. it's something after all to think that my whole life i will only be with that person.. if not dating is quite something like fun... rendez-vous au cinema blabla.. the unknown... but ultimately.. isn't it what everybody want? find someone to love and being loved? be deeply connected and understood? wow sorry for the rant/ haha ;) |
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| Good [+1]Toggle ReplyLink» raisinlove replied on Sat Jan 29, 2011 @ 5:14pm |
| Coolness: 63205 | Originally Posted By LYLA
That's a really good argument for non-monogamy. It's normal and perfectly healthy for one or both partners to desire either physical or emotional connection with others outside the primary relationship. I don't think that claiming to be in a monogamoous relationship stops that, it just creates guilty feelings or dishonesty or missed opportunities to form a nice connection with someone else. But it's important to be open and have good communication with your partner about where the boundaries are if you have them, and to practice safe sex or safe sex with anyone else outside the relationship. It still requires trust like any other relationship, it's just a bit more freedom which could be really nice to share with your partner. I once told a bf at the start of our relationship that he could be with other girls too if he liked, that I'm not jealous and it's all good. Either he didn't believe me, or the most likely case - he just wanted to have sex with someone else but didn't want ME to have that freedom too. So he chose "monogamy" but kept me basically as a prisoner/owned object reserved only for him while he was out there benefitting from more freedom himself. I know that this is the case with a lot more relationships than it appears. So now I'm really skeptical of monogamy. Being in a non-monogamous relationship doesn't mean that you're out there fucking the whole world. It can just mean that you have more feedom to make other special connections in whatever capacity, and the ability to communicate openly your partner about it and without destroying the primary relationship. Well that's simply because you are more comfortable with that than me. I realize that feeling an attraction to someone else while being in a couple can confuse someone or make them feel they are not free in their mono relationship, but that's one of the sacrifices monogamous people make. The reward for this sacrifice is keeping that intimacy unique and priviledged. Not everyone makes such a big deal out of sex of course... but some do. Also, it's perfectly normal to feel territorial about a mate as it is in our genes. Homo sapiens have evolved as basicaly monogamous primates, as oposed to chimpanzees. There are other monogamous primates whose family cultures roughly reflect our own. Of course you have cultures where men marry many women, they key word on that is "marry". They still have to commit to them and maintain all of them. But over the course of our evolution, the dominant behavior has been unique pairing. On the other hand, cheating has always been around but it's effects are never positive for the person being cheated on. They are consequences to our actions. If someone is willing to pay the price and not care about hurting someone else, that's when it's immoral and selfish. If you can handle sharing someone you deeply love, good for you and good luck finding someone who shares this view. You are not part of the majority however. Like I said, I respect people who are part of this minority... I'm just not willing to share their lifestyle. I like my monogamy and willing to make the sacrifices that come with it. |
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| Good [+1]Toggle ReplyLink» MolocH replied on Sat Jan 29, 2011 @ 5:17pm |
| Coolness: 226530 | Another point that needs to be adressed is the fact that, well, inmy opinion anyways, sex with a regular partner gets increasingly better. You get to know the person inside out, how they tick and whatnot. Whereas random sex with random peeps tends to be kinda experimental, wich lessens the feeling of comfort. ou know that "first time anxiety of making an awesome impression" and stuffs.
Harder to just let go and enjoy the moment. |
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| Good [+1]Toggle ReplyLink» raisinlove replied on Sat Jan 29, 2011 @ 5:20pm |
| Coolness: 63205 | Originally Posted By MOLOCH
Another point that needs to be adressed is the fact that, well, inmy opinion anyways, sex with a regular partner gets increasingly better. You get to know the person inside out, how they tick and whatnot. Whereas random sex with random peeps tends to be kinda experimental, wich lessens the feeling of comfort. ou know that "first time anxiety of making an awesome impression" and stuffs. Harder to just let go and enjoy the moment. +1000 SO true. I should have mentioned that! |
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| Good [+1]Toggle ReplyLink» MolocH replied on Sat Jan 29, 2011 @ 6:00pm |
| Coolness: 226530 | :) |
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| Good [+1]Toggle ReplyLink» AYkiN0XiA replied on Sun Jan 30, 2011 @ 9:47pm |
| Coolness: 166830 | but what when you have many deep relationships.
the poly'amour'y is about loving many people. it's not just about sex, well to me it is not, because i develop actual relationships with the people. it may be for a season, for a year, for a lifetime that i do not know when i meet someone. but polyamoury is different than random sex because often it's about developing meaningful relationships. and i find it awesome to have the occasion to develop that kind of relationship with more than one person. i think having sex with someone is really intimate, and when you see that person once a week, or once every two weeks, or something like that... at some point there IS a relationship, and it can be really special :) |
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| Good [+1]Toggle ReplyLink» MolocH replied on Sun Jan 30, 2011 @ 9:56pm |
| Coolness: 226530 | You're mistakin Polyamorous and Polygamous. |
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| Good [+1]Toggle ReplyLink» AYkiN0XiA replied on Sun Jan 30, 2011 @ 9:59pm |
| Coolness: 166830 | polyamourous = many love
polygamous = many spouse |
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